Your ceremony
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This work is about relationships
All ceremonies focus on relationships; between couples, those we remember, and ourselves. And the work I do with you is built on the relationship we form through our process together. Whether meeting in person or online, we prioritise building connection and trust. When the day of your ceremony arrives, my goal is for you to feel relaxed and confident, allowing you to fully connect with the moment, free from worry.
In an Agnostic ceremony, it is my aim to reflect the beliefs and values of the people around whom the ceremony is taking place (for instance the couple, or the deceased). I do this whilst being keenly aware and respectful of the fact that there may be people of many different faiths, beliefs, and cultures within the room. It is an extension of the inclusivity I aim to offer in every respect - honouring the identities and stories of everyone present, and mindfully creating a welcome for all.
You are not limited to a purely secular ceremony, unless that is what you want. I can create space for faith-based or spiritual elements as befits your beliefs.
An agnostic ceremony
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Who, what, and how we celebrate
These are challenging times; I find I am most able to make an impact in the world by holding welcoming, uplifting, and sometimes healing spaces for people.
I will consider working with you to mark any milestone in your life. Please read on for examples of the ceremonies I most frequently conduct…
Weddings, civil partnerships, commitment ceremonies and other ceremonies of romantic love
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In Scotland, you can legally marry or have a civil ceremony almost anywhere — as long as you have the landowner’s permission and an approved officiant (like me!). Beyond the legal declarations, the rest of your celebration can be entirely your own. Or you can mark your love in a non-legal ceremony.
I specialise in creating alternative, deeply personal ceremonies - the first I created was my own, intimate commitment ceremony with my partner. Ceremonies I’ve conducted since then have included all kinds of legal weddings that break the mould in location, tone, or structure; a meditative, barefoot non-legal hand fasting for a polyamorous couple, and celebratory vow renewals for couples who have already spent half a lifetime together.
People sometimes ask what kind of couples I like to work with and truthfully, I don’t have a “type.” What inspires me is the diversity of people I get to connect with and the unique ways they choose to express their love.
What I do value is working with people who are intentional, whether that means carving out a quiet moment in your ceremony to privately exchange vows, or shouting your love from the rooftops. In short, I want to work with people who care about their ceremony (not just the party - which I agree is also very important!).
Funerals, memorials, celebrations of life
Funerals are some of the most meaningful work I do. They hold the space for grief, memories, love, and sometimes laughter, all woven together in a way that honours the person who has died and supports the people who remain.
Just like with weddings, I don’t have a "type" of person, family, or situation I want to work with. What matters to me is creating a ceremony that feels real, personal, and grounded in the life that was lived. That might mean something quiet and reflective, or something bold and unconventional, or even a blend of both. I’ve worked with families who wanted storytelling and music, others who needed stillness and ritual, and some who weren’t sure what they needed at all.
That’s okay; part of my role is to help you figure all of this out.
I’m especially experienced in supporting people who are looking for something less traditional in format or location, or working with families who don’t want a religious funeral, but still want something deeply respectful, meaningful, and connected.
If there are elements of a traditional ceremony cause you a feeling of dread, it is perhaps something that we can dispense with or change; funerals are hard, but they can sometimes be made much more healing - and should not be traumatic.
Ceremony fees for 2026/27
WEDDINGS:
£850
FUNERALS & MEMORIALS:
Funerals*:
Single slot: £220 - £300
Double slot: £450 - £650
Memorials, Pre-Planned, or Living Funerals:*
£500 - £650
*(FREE for people under the age of 16).
OTHER CEREMONIES
£550 - £850
A word on my prices
My fee is higher than some, and you may well find a celebrant who charges less — and some of them will be wonderful. But as a director of Agnostic Scotland, a trainer of new celebrants, and a feminist, I feel a strong responsibility to help shift the landscape toward fair pay.
Creating a ceremony involves several days of thoughtful, creative work: writing, meetings, planning, delivery; and this fee is my only income for that time. It also supports the wider costs of running my practice and my membership with Agnostic Scotland.
I believe celebrants should be paid a real living wage for their skill, time and emotional energy. This is caring, creative work most commonly done by women. I’m proud to be part of a movement working toward equality and parity across all genders and industries, and I’m confident in the value I offer.
In fact, I’m often told I haven’t charged enough.